The Struggle With Keeping My Promises To Myself

The Struggle With Keeping My Promises To Myself

As a PCOS woman, sometimes I find it hard to keep my promises to myself. Usually it has to do with wanting that easy button. Less cooking, less dishes, more time with family and doing things I am passionate about.

While I love to cook, I am not always inspired to do it.

This is where, for me, food becomes not bad or good, but just frustrating.

I know I have food sensitivities. I have a balance of indulging and eating to feel good that is necessary to keeping my sanity and my hormones balanced. Eating to feel good is not always easy for me. I feel like most PCOS women can relate to this.

I really do love salads...they are quick and easy. Though I also really love pizza. While I have discovered the art of the pizza bowl, I do not always want to make the pizza bowl (with goat, buffalo, or sheep cheese because cow dairy and I are not friends).

So naturally moving our family and developing a business has led to further frustration with food. I have gotten myself all out of whack.

What is funny is that I teach people to do what has helped me, but of course I am in a season of getting myself back on track. Putting my promises to myself before the convenience in life has never been more challenging. I have never had to learn this lesson before and it is hard. 

I do not resent nor am I mad at how off balance I got myself...I really enjoyed that food and savored it.  However I am frustrated with the lack of ease this has been for me this time around to get back on track. It has been more work than I would like for it to be. 

Though it is important for me to show up and work through this phase. Not just for others, but for myself. 

Building integrity is important. What does integrity have to do with this?  Integrity is more than something you are characterized by others. This video will fill this in for you. 


As you can see, keeping our promises to ourselves is so much more than we give it credit for. It is easy for us to put the needs of others or in my case, the ease above doing the more challenging things.

Can you relate with this? Does food frustrate you because you wish there was an easy button? 

I cannot promise that addressing your food balance will be easy, but I sure can tell you that there is a place where you can find support, encouragement, and tools to help you pivot to develop a healthier relationship with food. So if you like or relate with what you just read, come join the journey in the Thriving with PCOS community. 

Finding ways to enjoy your relationship with food while also addressing what our bodies are telling us is so important. You are allowed to enjoy food while also respecting what your symptoms are telling you. It is possible to have both.

Wishing you food enjoyment and nourishment, 

Terra



Living Life By Design

Living Life By Design

I talk about living a life of balance, when in fact, my life was not in this place either. I believed in this so much that I even went through great links to become a certified coach to help others.  

I finally did it and I did it scared. I ripped off the security blanket that was keeping me safe but unbalanced nonetheless. No wonder my hormones were always unbalanced in a major way. Which is not good for someone working so hard to balance them. 

I really thought if I worked on balancing all but one area, I would be alright. Though it was bringing on resentment and frustration for me.

What I did not realize is that to change my life (and my health) I really needed to change my life. If my goal was to inspire others to live a life that fulfilled them, I needed to do the same thing. Inspire by living what you teach.

So how was this done? By dreaming again. Breaking down my dreams into goals. Creating action that makes my goals happen and gets me closer to making that dream a reality. 

Does that sound like a fairytale?

I am sure it does, but it does not have to be!

One place to start is to look at it from the view of priorities. We have so many of them. I talk more about priorities and how to simplify them here in this video:

For me, this was the part I was getting conflicted on. I had so many priorities, and I was showing up poorly. 

I was resenting my day job because the schedule was ever changing. I resented being a mom (which I wanted to be all of my life) because I needed to make sure he was cared for while I was at work. I never felt like I was doing anything well. 

When life gave us a new opportunity, I began doing the normal job search in the traditional setting for my profession. 

It was a video that talked about giving up good for great that helped me realize that it was time. Time to work through my fear of losing security.

I came up with the action steps to see if we could live a secure life without throwing life back off balance. We discussed it as a family, it appeared to look like we could pull this off.  

I made the steps so clear and created accountability around them, that when I was presented with an opportunity in a non-traditional setting for my profession, I cried. I felt conflicted again.

Luckily, my accountability sources reminded me we would be okay and gave me the blessing I needed from an outside source to create the life of balance I always dreamt of. 

If I would have had goals with no clear actions, I would have been on a random road. Nothing to aim for. I would have taken that job. I would have returned to the resentment, it just would have looked different.

So I encourage you, if you are unhappy with where you are at, take a moment to dream. See where that leads you.

It is time to dream again and start living life by your design! 

When you are ready to turn those dreams into action, there is a framework out there to help you get there. It comes with an amazing community and support from me and many others. 

Looking forward to seeing live by your design,

Terra  

 

The Game of Body Shame

The Game of Body Shame

So many women do this. So PCOS women are no exception!


My (PCOS) belly is so big. I hate the way my arm jiggle. I hate how big my thighs are.


I have been right there with you. Above are just a couple of my least favorite things about my body actually. 


We cannot help ourselves. We have literally been taught by other women to judge our bodies in some way shape or form. We have also been taught to obsess over it. 


I mean why else would women around the world choose to have cosmetic surgeries!


This has to end here and now!


I was presenting in a group on facebook about Intuitive eating as part of a mini-series we are doing in there.  I honestly did not realize how much I was practicing many of these things already. 


I talk about the rules of Intuitive eating here for those that are curious 


In those rules, there is one key piece that really hit me hard...Respect Your Body!


What this means in the world of Intuitive Eating is love your body!


Love the way it works. Love what it is capable of. Love something in the way that it looks.


Ladies there has to be something you love about your body!


My challenge for you, figure that 1 thing that you love about your body. It can be anything. Your eyes, your smile, your ability to push things with your strong legs...just pick something. 


Spend more time focusing on what you love than what you are unhappy with. I promise you that this will change so much for you over time. 


No one can love you better than yourself! Until you learn to love yourself, you will continue to live in a space that is full of dislike and distrust. 


Above are just a few things that I love about my body. If you are brave, share with me in the comments what you love about your body. 


XO, 


Terra

3 Tips for Holiday Treats That Fit Your Lifestyle

3 Tips for Holiday Treats That Fit Your Lifestyle

It is getting to be that time of year! All of the goodies and sweet treats will be out in full force.


As a woman who married into a family of foodies but who’s body requires making smart lifestyle decisions, this can be a slippery slope. 


Do not get me wrong, I love sweet treats. I have not, however, had them so abundantly available to me growing up. So now that I am around other families that do not do what my family does, I find it more challenging to resist those tasty treats!


So what is a girl to do? Make versions for herself!


So I will admit, I like to bake. I however do not always have time to do so. I do have to pick and choose which goodies to make for myself and which ones to give myself grace on. 


Please, if you decide to enjoy some of those sweet treats, give yourself grace in those moments. Learn from them and love yourself. It was one day and you can make better decisions next time. That cookie or piece of pie will not be your undoing. 


With that said, let’s back to baking! I have had to relearn how to do this baking thing over the last few years. 


I am sensitive to gluten and dairy. I learned this through an elimination protocol. While I feel so much better without these foods, I was missing some of my favorites. 


I am so thankful for the many resources that exist today. Danielle Walker is my favorite resource. Her book Celebrations:A Year of Gluten-Free, Dairy-Free, and Paleo Recipes for Every Occasion, was a game changer for me at the holidays. 


If you are looking info alternative baking and cooking, please go check out her stuff! She has a website with lots of freebies. 


Here are a few things I have done to help me enjoy treats as well as stay within my lifestyle choices. 


  1. Looked into the alternatives: I looked into different flour options as well as dairy alternatives, and most importantly lower glycemic options for sugar. Things like almond flour, coconut milks/creams, monk fruit, and date syrup


  1. Looked for already prepped items: I found some many options to pie crust, alternative whips, and chocolate chips that are for people with food allergies (I promise they taste so good). 


  1. Lastly, I simply asked if anyone else is willing to try and make tasty treats for me. Whether it is my mother-in-law who also loves to bake or I am at a bakery. I check out my options and go from there. 


While I will never eat perfectly during the holiday season, I try my best. These are just a few things I have done to help support my body better with food while also enjoying some of my favorite things when it comes to the holidays. 


So go out there, give it your best go, and just enjoy the day. No matter what you eat, enjoy it! 


Cheers to the Holiday Season,


Terra


Disclaimer

The Mightiness of Progesterone

The Mightiness of Progesterone

I can remember a time in my life when I would ask myself, “When was my last period?” Which is pretty common when your body is not ovulating. Naturally going to the doctor to fix this problem is something I did. 


Unfortunately the problems began to continue from there. This is what happens when what you are taking is not the real deal. I had to change what I was getting in those pills and here is why: 




So like I said the problems I had began to develop into something more. I wish I knew then, what I know now. There is a big improvement when I made the switch to natural progesterone from synthetic progestin. 


Let’s compare the differences: 


I wanted nothing more than to sleep during the afternoon. I would curl up on the couch with a comfy blanket, turn on a movie I had watched a million times, and nap. 


Even now that sounds like an amazing idea! Luckily, I do not feel like I need to do that any more.


When you are taking progestin based products, adrenal fatigue is a common issue. Since making the switch, my energy levels began to improve and napping was no longer a necessity to make it through the day.


When I would have a period, they would be crazy heavy and miserable. I would go through so much famine product and have to do laundry often. 


While both are great for this, natural progesterone does it just a bit better.


Oh and of course...my mood would be unreal. I honestly had to go to counseling to adjust my attitude and as well as work on my depression. 


One thing progestin does not do well is help with your mood. In fact, it is linked with progressing mood disorders. 


Progesterone on the other hand has been such a blessing for me in this area. It is a promoter of good mood and also better sleep. Also when you sleep better, you are in a better mood. The two go hand in hand. 


Other benefits that you may gain from natural progesterone is it supports the cardiovascular system, nourishes hair and skin, supports breast tissue, and helps build muscle and bones. 


Natural progesterone for the win!


Now the trick is, how to get your hands on this stuff?


The first place to focus is getting your body back to naturally ovulating. I know this sounds tricky. 


This can be done when you address the underlying issues that are keeping you from ovulating. For many PCOS women this is easier said than done, but it can be done with lifestyle changes, I promise. 


The second piece to help support you while you are working on the above is to get micronized or bioidentical progesterone.


This comes in the form of creams, serums, and capsules.


Ready to switch to natural progesterone? We discuss this and more in the Thriving with PCOS community on Facebook.  Come join us in taking the steps to acquire natural progesterone for yourself. 


See You There, 


Terra 

 
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